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Supposed Sexual Superiority

Sex

Whether it comes from the media or from our peers, there is a lot of pressure within our society to be having ‘good’ sex. This entirely undefined term seems to refer to having frequent sex, as well as, of course, having lots of orgasms. There is a decent amount of resistance to these notions, which is great. I’ve lost track of the amount of times I’ve been reassured by women’s magazines that penis-in-vagina sex alone doesn’t quite do it for most women (information which I will store in the ‘in case I ever become sexually involved with a man’ file in my brain). But this reassurance that penis-does-not-equal orgasms (necessarily) just adds fuel to the most persistent of rumours: that lesbian sex is inherently amazing.

And this rumour is everywhere.

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The Gay Agenda is Proud: Hazel

This week, in the lead up to Glasgow Pride, we decided to interview some of our writers to find out what Pride means to them!

What’s your name, age and where do you come from?

Hi, I’m Hazel, I’m 23 and I’m originally from London, although I now live in Edinburgh.

Why did you get involved in the Gay Agenda?

I really admire some of the fabulous blogs out there aimed at queer women like The Most Cake, Autostraddle, Fuck Yeah Dykes and Diva. They inspired me to want to be part of the amazing online queer community which has bloomed over the last few years!

What do you write about?

I do a bit of everything! But mainly I write about current affairs, collate and I edit.

What do you do in real life?

I currently work in inclusive education at the University of Edinburgh.

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Why is Pride important to you?

I have always been keen for Pride. I remember my first ever Pride in London, I met up with a friend beforehand and we stood at the side of the road and watched the march pass by. Although I only watched that year I felt part of a  vibrant community, had a wonderful day, and couldn’t wait to be a part of the march at my next pride. At that time I didn’t really understand the historical significance of Pride, but I knew it was about celebrating a community I could be part of, and that was good enough. It’s been many years now since my first pride, and I have learned a ton about queer history and have given a few talk on it. It is still important to me as an experience that can bring queer people together to celebrate our community, but it’s also important as a protest to the homo-, trans*- and bi- phobias that we experience every day.

What is your best and worst part of pride?

I love Pride for the space it gives queer communities to celebrate ourselves! It’s always been a happy day for me. The worst however, is the bit in between the march and the nightlife where there is not a lot to do, but no real point in going home.

What’s your must-have item for Pride?

A big bottle of water. I am a big fan of chanting in the march, and I always shout myself hoarse.

If you had a placard for Pride what would it say?

I have made a lot of placards, and it’s always tough to think of slogans! But I like something simple like ‘love is love’.

What’s you Pride soundtrack?

Best ever Pride you’ve been to?

Although I’ve been to lots of prides up and down the country, my favourite Pride is still London Pride. It was my first ever Pride, and I try and make sure I’m in town whenever it is.

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No thanks for same-sex marriage

Over the last couple of days there’s been a lot of praise and thanks given. Thanks to the Lords. Thanks to the Queen. Even thanks to the Prime Minister (boke).

Thank you Ma'am

Now I personally think that this ‘thank you’ rhetoric is taking the wrong attitude. It is behaving like somehow the Government has done us a big favour, affording us our basic civil rights. They haven’t. For years they have been withholding those rights, now they have done the right thing. So if anyone has the details of a card store selling ‘Congratulations you’re no longer homophobes’ cards then I will be on board!

Every time I go to polling station I do not feel the need to send a quick thank you note to the government for affording me the right, as a woman, to vote. Every time I am able to open a bank account in my own name I am not over-whelmed by the urge to race towards Clintons. And let’s remember those that are left out of this bill. In particular those people who will affected by the spousal veto on gender reassignment. So let’s not fall over ourselves to thank anyone too quickly!

So yes thank you to all of the fantastic activists that have helped us make the government see sense. For those that helped us take another step in the right direction. Thanks to everyone who wrote to their MPs, that pulled amazing stunts and to all of you that had quiet conversations and one by one changed people’s minds.

But lets not thank those who quietly stood by and said nothing, did nothing, fought for nothing. Simply voting does not deserve our thanks. Let’s be proud and say this is the least we deserve.

And carry on fighting!

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